Ever bumped your funny bone, pinched your finger, or stubbed your toe? Our first response is usually “Ouch, that hurt!” Don’t you wish we could admit that when we deal with our own hurt feelings? Someone misunderstands a comment, dishes you a sarcastic remark, or criticizes your efforts at work. Our first response when we suffer emotional pain could be to lash out in anger, revenge, or retribution.
We must let God neutralize the process by taking “self” out of the equation. Instead of lashing out with a quick response or self-defense, choose a discipline of silence by practicing prayer. This is not a weak way to escape a situation. It is a choice to trust God in the middle of disagreement that can be diffused. “The Lord watches over all who love him but all the wicked He will destroy,” says Psalm 145:20.
“Hurting people hurt people” is a phrase used in counseling, especially true when it comes to solving painful situations. In times of painful conflict , it helps to remind yourself: “God loves me. God is watching over me. God will give an answer.” This is God’s promise of His watch-care over us, even during difficult days. Feel alone and unprotected? God watches over us like a shepherd watches over his flock. As I step back from a devastating situation and pour out my feelings, I pray, “Lord, that comment really hurt. Father, why did that hurt so much?” I might not have the answer right away, but He hears, cares, and heals. “Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us,” says Psalm 62:8. May I pray for you?
Father, thank you for listening to our hearts and hearing our cries. Thank you for your tenderness, your watch-care, your healing presence. Help us to always maintain an attitude of prayer by praying the Jesus prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.” Amen.